My Insights with Olya Parfenova (Troy, USA) LIFE VLOG
Happy holidays, dear friends! In the first issue of the MY INSIGHTS programme, a participant of ALLATRA International Public Movement, resident of the city of Troy (USA) Olga Parfyonova shares her observations and reflections on simple life situations which she deals with during the day. After watching the programme "CONSCIOUSNESS AND PERSONALITY. FROM THE INEVITABLY DEAD TO THE ETERNALLY ALIVE", one perceives any everyday issues and incidents completely differently - through working on oneself, through understanding and practical application of the Knowledge about the interaction of primary and secondary consciousnesses.
It becomes very interesting to observe all this and not to get involved in the play of the actors of consciousness and their reactions at that, and gradually to discover the real freedom of the Personality! Friends, please share in the comments, have you had such life situations? How did you get out of them? What ideas do you have for further videos in the framework of this programme and in general? Let's expand this topic together!
Hello, everyone. I wish everyone happy holidays! Happy New Year! Merry Christmas!
And today I would like to share with you my discoveries, observations and insights after watching the programme "CONSCIOUSNESS AND PERSONALITY. FROM THE INEVITABLY DEAD TO THE ETERNALLY ALIVE".
I didn’t really understand before what was what. Yes, there were some thoughts, there were some reactions to these thoughts and all that, and I thought it was me. For real. I was getting very upset about this. I thought, well, what is it, why do I envy again, why am I angry again, why am I yelling again? What is going on? It seems like I want to be a good person, with a capital "P", but nothing doing.
And this programme has put everything in its place: who in fact is not a very good person in me and why I do these or those things. Especially this manifests itself with my husband in everyday questions. So I'll give you a simple example.
We started renovation in the kitchen, and we laying the tiles. And there was such a moment that it was necessary to pull out all the sockets and all the switches. This happened one and a half months ago. And I was asking him. The tiles are placed, everything is beautiful, everything is stylish. I asked him. I'll show you these wretched sockets. You will see them now, what I'm talking about, what's what.
Here they are. Here. There they are, not so nice, right? And my birthday is coming up. And, of course, someone in me really needed to make these sockets ideal. Because they are there. And I hinted to my husband, well so, well, how did I hint? I said, "Could you, please, fix the sockets?" He told me, "Yes, of course, I, can fix them." I come home... pfff, everything is in the same place. I told him again in a week, so unobtrusively, "Could you install them, please?" He said to me, "Yes, yes, yes. Once I have time, I will do it." Well, in short, the point is that my birthday has passed, and yet still no sockets to this day.
But the point: at that moment when I came home for the second time and didn’t see these wretched sockets, something began to happen inside me. Thoughts started creeping in, "Oh, he's such and such, the old so-and-so, how dare he! What will people think?! They will come, and no sockets. This will spoil the whole picture of my super-fairy renovation!"
But the thoughts are half the trouble. Hmm... After the thoughts, reactions followed. And one more thing, that thoughts began not only for the current moment - about the sockets, but also something began to be pulled from the past, as from a dusty smelly bag, and some resentments began to drift up to the surface. And, of course, proposals started pouring forth: give this ass a piece of my mind, so that he stops kicking up. And at that moment someone began to play in me, you know, just like children, yes, pound their fists, roll on the floor... And so I feel that this hysteria is starting. Such a thing, you know, like a furious bull: now I will hit him with my horns in a certain place.
And then I understand that this is nonsense, that I don’t care about the sockets at all, well, roughly speaking, there’s no difference whether they are there or not... Well, if they were there, that would be good. If not, nothing like changed because of this. You know, the funniest thing is that consciousness was saying, “What will people think about you?” and all that. People came to my birthday party, we hung out, nobody even said a word about the sockets, because everyone really couldn’t care less about them.
And here, there is such a point that, you know, it was clearly traced that secondary consciousness which throws thoughts (all this) to primary consciousness, which, like a little baby, reacts to all this and wants to make a scene. Moreover, secondary consciousness has sort of its own interests. Yes, I understand about myself that it plays on pridefulness, yes, on management of another person, on control. But if we look at it on a global scale, what happens? What happens is elementary thing - it is trying to divide me from my husband.
And, you know, very often, when some scandals, well, yes, that got started, the first thing that secondary consciousness offers to the primary one is, "Why don’t you divorce him!? Why the heck do you need him?" That is, there are never any good solutions to some current issues, yes, not everything is always smooth. It never offers, "Oh, come on, go and reconcile. Ask him why, what's preventing him from doing it, why he behaves like this, or something." Or even, you know, it could have suggested, "Like, and you hold your tongue." No, this never happens. It is all working towards separation, towards control, towards power, towards suppression of the Personality of another person.
And when I saw all this, I asked myself an honest question: why do I need this? What do I worry about some stupid sockets which, well, are not a big deal, right? What is this, after all? Nonsense. I will disturb peace, joy, harmony between us, yes, and in our home. That is, what is more important to me: to defend the fiefdom of my Animal nature, yes, in the form of all these claims, insults, pridefulness, and furthermore, to beat up another person for no reason, for nothing... Or to preserve this peace and this very understanding between us, right? And then I make this... I made this choice, that I said "that’s enough". Like, definitely, "No, I don’t want all this, I don’t need scandals."
And when I gave such a clear rebuff, I said, "No, I choose joy, love, I choose the creating side", and, you know, this whole gang in the form of bad thoughts, in the form of these someone's hysterical internal growls - it all came down to nothing. You know, and I realized that you need to watch yourself, to control your thoughts. Not someone else's thoughts, not someone else's affairs, not other people's actions, but precisely yourself.
And you know, try it, see what happens, write it down. It is very useful. When you write, you see what is happening, right? And when it even begins, you start writing, and at first, there’s such a (growl), and then... You're already writing and writing, and it's already funny to you - what nonsense you are being offered in general. It's just some kind of absurdity.
And when you see it all, you suddenly realize that this isn’t you at all, generally speaking, you don’t need all this at all, it’s just that someone wants to take the dominant position in you. But this someone is not you. You - it is that other one, the one who observes all this, feels all this, and on top of it pays for all this with his attention.
So, decide for yourself: you want to live in peace, in love, in harmony, in joy, in mutual help, in mutual assistance, in support, or you want to have a dogfight because of some damned, stupid sockets. Because, as I have noticed, all scandals and quarrels happen due to some kind of nonsense, which is not even worth a damn. And it's insulting. This is our life in which we decide whether to create more good, positive moments, or to live in some kind of anger, negativity, irritation and curse everyone up and down. Personally, I choose Life in love, joy, and creation (for myself).
I wish everyone happy holidays! Moreover, don’t forget to watch the programme "CONSCIOUSNESS AND PERSONALITY. FROM THE INEVITABLY DEAD TO THE ETERNALLY ALIVE".
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