People want to feel happy, but can’t always do that. It is believed in modern society that it is impossible to live without any problems, fears and conflicts.
But what if knowing the cause of these problems and acting upon it could help remedy the situation? What one thing could lead to greater happiness in your life? What leads to happier relationships between parents and children?
The answer in this video provides a holistic view of many situations that happen in people’s lives on a daily basis. It applies to human relationships on various levels: in the family, at work, with friends and strangers. You can hear the answer for yourself to have a better understanding.
Igor Mikhailovich: People want to be happy, they strive for it, they understand that it is the only right way to really achieve happiness, not only in their own lives (although we all strive to be happy), but in society as a whole. But what hinders them? A simple question. And it is the experience that humanity and each individual have accumulated that hinders them.
Today, there are practically no happy people in this world. If we look: is a modern person happy? He has loans, he has debts, he has problems: he has problems in his family, problems at work, problems with his friends. We all live in problems to a greater or lesser extent. Only today it has got better at work — there appear conflicts and problems in the family. It has got better in the family — there appear problems with neighbors or someone else. Isn’t that so? And a person doesn’t believe that in this world it’s really possible to exist out of conflict, out of problems, but to be really happy.
And what is the cause of all our conflicts and all our disappointments? A simple question. And the answer is also very simple: the consumer format of modern society. After all, the building of relationships both at work, among friends, acquaintances, and in the family is consumerist. And this is indeed so. Parents want to command their children so that they act the way their parents want. It is fair — parents are adults, they know what is better. But there is a lack of understanding that children are free Personalities who have the right to choose their life. Yet, what do we think? That they are little, they know less than us, they do not have life experience and often make mistakes. We try to warn them against mistakes, and thus we get too much absorbed in the game, we forget that our children have already grown up, that they are adults. And sometimes they themselves have children already, but we continue to play whom?
Tatiana: Parents, right.
Igor Mikhailovich: Tyrants. After all, we forget that at first we want to protect them, help, and then it becomes our habit. And then we wonder why children sometimes don’t even call their parents. Because a mere fact of communication is either obedience or a game (putting on masks again). It is the same with the parents towards their children — again masks, masks of tyranny, masks of a smart, all-knowing, super-experienced person, whereas life changes. And it turns out that we live in masks.
But aren’t our relationships at work built in the same way? To some we are a boss, to others we are subordinate, and we constantly have conflicts and disagreements. Why? Consumer relationship.